Turn Down the Volume on Your Anger by 30%
Sound impossible? It’s not.
Before I get to that, I want to express my deepest thanks and gratitude for the numerous comments on the blog and the emails you all have sent me regarding these videos. There’s no question that we face a difficult time in the world currently – economic uncertainty, political change, fear and anxiety over family finances, job stressors. And these changes impact all of us.
I’m so proud of the courage you’ve shown to be willing to be a vehicle to change the world for the better. I want to remind you of your power and strength within you to not only survive but serve others as a force for improving the world around you. A force for good, a force for lifting up others around you.
Ok, back to the exciting stuff…
One of the biggest complaints I hear is ‘My wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend always seems irritated.’
I’ve helped hundreds of clients turn down the volume on their anger, irritability, annoyance, and angry outbursts.
All it takes is learning tiny (sometimes effortless) shifts in your thinking, actions or physiology that can amount to huge long term results.
This video is VERY helpful because it shares one of those tiny changes with you. These are tiny changes I’ve spent the past 20 years vetting, learning and separating out only the best ones for you.
KEY: You are already making these tiny changes on a regular basis. All of us are. We simply lack awareness of them. Without awareness, we don’t know where those changes are taking us!
The BIG QUESTION is this: Are these little, tiny changes taking you down a path of fulfillment, success and happiness OR are they taking you down a path of frustration and disappointment?
My Journey from Struggle to Satisfaction
My own journey started with depression, anxiety, little satisfaction with life and no money. Not a great starting point for the game called life. In 1997, I was working as a school psychologist, listening to really heavy stories from students in a rough part of town in Fremont, CA. At the time, I had no understanding that emotions are contagious – you can catch feelings from other people. So I was trying to help these students, all the while I’m taking in their emotions every hour – rage, fear, anxiety, despair, anger.
Eventually, my back went out (which it usually did when I fell into an emotional ditch), and I’m lying on my office floor. The tunnel was quickly closing in on me. I felt no hope. I felt no pride. I felt no satisfaction with my job. I felt no happiness. All I saw was the light dimming at the end of the tunnel and I could see no options. I was depressed.
I recall lying there, on the floor, and thinking ‘This is frikking ridiculous. Here I am, a psychologist trained at U.C. Berkeley, one of the best universities in the world, and I cannot manage my own emotions. How can I ask other people to do so, when I can’t?!’
At that moment, I made a conscious decision to seek out the best scientifically-proven tools to…
a) Turn DOWN the volume on negative, destructive emotions such as anxiety, anger, and depression and
b) Turn UP the volume on positive emotions such as passion, engagement, contentment, relaxation, interest, awe, love and pride.
And this is the single biggest secret to improving every aspect of your life…
It’s not sufficient to merely focus on reducing anger. As anger becomes less frequent, something has to enter into the equation to take its place. Otherwise, anger returns as an old habit.
What takes the place of anger? Positive emotions. Everything in the mind and in the brain works on homeostasis. A balance is required. We need a better balance in terms of negative emotions to positive emotions.
No one else is teaching this. Other anger management programs simply focus on turning down anger.
Since 1997, mastering the emotional mind has been my driving passion and purpose. It has made it fun and exciting to get up each morning.
One of the tiny shifts in thinking that will transform your life is simply to think of how much time you spend mired in negative emotions as compared to how much time you spend in positive emotions.
When I started this journey, I spent the vast majority of my time (upwards of 75%) irritated, annoyed, melancholy, anxious and emotionally unpredictable. I probably spent about 25% of my time feeling some degree of relaxation, distraction, contentment and engagement (passion and interest).
Now I spend almost 75% of my time in happiness, passion, excitement and enjoyment. I’m not sure I’m completely there yet, but man have I come a LOOONG way from where I started. I have successfully flipped my ratio of positive to negative emotions (from 1:3 to 3:1!).
And this simple shift in how I think of emotions (in terms of a balance between positive and negative) has produced massive results in my life.
I have four videos up on YouTube each teaching 1 tiny aspect of these concepts. They each have over 10,000 hits and have only been up for 7 weeks.
Potential joint ventures are approaching me now.
I’m being asked to join speaker bureaus to do $10k speaking gigs.
A local university recently contacted me to ask if I’d be willing to teach a course in positive psychology to psychologists and therapists.
I’ve written an award-winning book.
My positive psychology blog, Shrunken Mind, has received three awards from three different organizations in the past year.
I was fortunate to do a daily prime time radio show for a year.
I speak to students in high schools about emotions. How weird is that? Even weirder – they LIKE it. I’ve been presenting monthly at a continuation high school for 3 years now. Tough crowd. At my last presentation, the principal gave the students a choice as whether or not they wanted to attend. 95% of the students chose to come and listen.
I have run this whole approach by friends of mine who are business people, psychologists, psychiatrists and MFTs. Not only are they intensely interested in my materials, they are fascinated by HOW I’m doing it on the web. This is coloring outside the lines. It’s a new model.
A new approach is long overdue.
Teaching Advanced Tools for the Mind (ATM) to men via the web sidesteps the typical feelings of shame, guilt and embarrassment that most men feel walking into a therapist’s office. My purpose here is to shine a light on an emotion that has been misunderstood forever. Part of my passion for this program stems from my own journey with anger. So I come from a place of nonjudgment. In fact, my belief is that you have multiple strengths that you are likely overlooking. These strengths can be tapped to help you overcome your challenges with anger. Part of this course will help you identify your strengths and use them in new ways. I also know that if you are here as a parent or a husband, that you deeply love your family. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be here.
The first step is to make the conscious decision to learn new ways of dealing with anger.
NONE of this would have happened if I had not made the conscious decision to figure out my own anger and put proven tools into play to make tiny shifts in thinking. Over time, these tiny steps result in powerful changes. The changes made me happier and less angry.
Guess what? Success follows happiness. Not the other way around. As I’ve learned to be happier, people are seeking me out. It’s simple: Get happier and the opportunities follow.
Why? People LIKE to be around upbeat, positive, happy, optimistic people. So happy people tend to have more friends. More friends means more access to knowledge. Ultimately, it means that happier people are there when opportunities arise and are in a position to choose whether or not to grab the opportunity.
Angry, pessimistic people are always looking for the worst case scenario (similar to many lawyers). You find what you’re looking for. Unfortunately, this results in fewer relationships and far fewer opportunities. It’s as simple as that.
Recent studies have shown that one of the big hallmarks of a productive, successful, happy life is Barbara Fredrickson’s 3:1 Positivity ratio. So the goal has become feeling negative emotions less frequently and less intensely while finding tools to turn up the frequency and intensity of positive emotions.
What do you get in this video series?
You get a video series is 10 hours of me sharing my best materials with you on how to revolutionize your life in tiny, manageable little daily and weekly steps.
These videos provide detailed explanations of why and HOW you can begin to implement the necessary steps in your life to manage your negative emotions that are screwing up your chance at success and happiness.
The video series covers the main areas of anger management:
1. Anger management – a powerful knowledge base regarding what anger is, along with ways to turn down the volume on anger
2. Stress management – understanding what stress is and discovering new ways to relate to stress
3. Emotional awareness – education to increase awareness of negative emotions in the moment (so they stop sneaking up on you)
4. Assertiveness training – how to be more appropriately assertive so anger doesn’t build over time
5. Paths to happiness – Tools to pursue the 3 scientifically proven paths to happiness
a. Sensory pleasure and positive emotions
b. Engagement with life, and
c. Meaning and purpose in your life
What’s more, each video will include at least one exercise to turn up the volume on a positive emotion and one exercise to help you turn down the anger.
That’s two exercises every week – one to turn down the negative and one to turn up the positive.
You’ll also get powerful frameworks to help you make sense out of your most powerful asset – your mind.
We human beings do a lot of irrational things. Then we struggle to make sense of them. And we beat ourselves up over our mistakes. Most of this is fueled by the emotional part of your mind. My teachings help you make sense out of things that don’t make sense – emotional acts.
For instance, the comment ‘You shut your mouth when you’re talking to me!‘ makes absolutely no sense. It’s a completely irrational statement. It’s an emotionally-charged comment. We say and do a lot of emotionally-fueled things on a daily basis. It’s time to increase your awareness and take control of your emotional mind.
Not only will this coaching seminar teach you to turn down anger, you’ll also learn to be more relaxed and content. What a concept!
And each and every exercise has been vetted by me personally and proven to be successful in peer-reviewed scientific journals. Until now, no one has brought them together into a useful, focused framework.
But don’t just take my word for it; here are some client testimonials…
Testimonials
‘I want to express my deep gratitude to you for creating such a powerful program. Stick a fork in me… I was done; done screaming at my children when they were simply doing stupid kid things. I was done overreacting to minor annoyances. My anger was waaaaay out of line with whatever was going on at home. Before signing up for your Advanced Tools for the Mind program, I remember my son was going sideways one morning while I was trying to dress him. I lost my temper, exploded in anger. I yelled at him for several minutes (who knows how long it really was) and I sent him to the time-out chair. I was scaring not just him, but my whole family. My anger was out of control and I did not even know it! My wife wanted me to stop. My kids wanted me to stop. I wanted to stop. Thankfully, your program is teaching me what’s going on inside my head. Your tools have helped me to turn down the volume on my anger. I have become more calm and yes, even happier. My wife thanks you. My kids thank you. And I thank you!’ Ken W., father of four
‘Dr. John helped me to turn my B- brain into an A+ brain. I am far less irritable now and far more happy. Turning down anger: $395. Finding more happiness: Priceless.’ Brett D.
‘I was stuck in a job I hated when I first started with Dr. John. I was a wimp who lacked the assertiveness to stand up for my own wants and needs. Now I’m in a position that I am passionate about! I love getting up in the morning. I love going to work. I haven’t been this happy since I was 6 years old. Thank you so much. My life has been transformed.’ Jim C.
With your help, my wife and I accomplished our dreams. I still can’t believe we did all this. Now that we’ve left the Bay Area, I have more time for reflection, a time to rediscover myself. Life had gotten so busy for me, part of me had gotten lost. You know, that fun excitement for life part. In the hustle bustle of life, I forgot to make time to play. Life got too serious for me. I wasn’t enjoying my life. I got lost. Now, my wife and I are both genuinely happy. The other night we were walking and saw the most incredible moon scattered with light clouds over and around as it peeked over the hill. We just watched in awe. We thought it would be great to watch the moon in our chairs with some wine. I grabbed my wife’s hand and we ran back to the house. We were laughing all the way. It was really special. Funny the things you start to notice when you quiet your mind. Thanks for everything you have done.’ – Shawn C.
‘Thank you for sharing your gifts with such clarity and passion. You have helped start me on a new course in my life – one of passion and purpose! My irritability is a shadow of what it used to be. My wife is totally into me again. My performance at work has taken off like a rocket! Coworkers WANT to be around me and I’m getting pulled into all sorts of exciting, challenging projects. Thanks a million!’ Mike B.
‘Thank you for all of your efforts towards educating men! Your work in shaping happy and healthy minds, bodies and, most importantly, hearts is critical for a new world. You have sparked the ongoing pursuit of a meaningful and happy life for me. ‘ Dave T.
Among the best things I’ve learned through this program is a better understanding of what anger is and how to deal with it. I was always told that anger is ‘bad’, ‘you cannot be angry’ and so I just stuffed it down inside me. Unfortunately, as I’ve learned, that works for a period of time. I’d reach a boiling point, then my anger would erupt and I’d go all volcanic on my family. With Dr. John’s ATM program, I realized that anger is simply an emotion. It’s neither bad nor good by itself. It’s okay to feel angry. What makes all the difference in the world is what you do once anger takes hold. There’s a huge difference between feeling angry and how you behave when you are angry.’ Jeff A., father of three
Cost
If you were to come in to see me as a client, you’d end up paying $150 per hour to learn these tools. What’s more, much of our time together would be spent with you telling me your reasons why you can’t find satisfaction, how badly you were hurt in the past, how stuck you are in anger, and so on. All of this is understandable and to be expected…in therapy. Yet, this is COACHING. I teach people tools so that they can find more happiness and purpose, tools to help them turn down anger and anxiety. While important, the degree to which you were hurt in the past is less important than you getting the tools and putting them to use. You are far more resilient than you realize.
You simply need to learn the TOOLS to manage your emotional mind.
I’ve seen people rise from the ashes of the worst possible childhoods and the most traumatic situations and simply thrive once they put the tools into play. By focusing more on the solutions rather than the problems, tremendous changes occur that at one point seemed impossible.
To give you a comparison, I charge $1500 for 10 hours of individual coaching.
So if you were to approach me individually for these services, the cost would be $1500.
Typically, I charge $995 for this package of videos alone.
For a limited time, you get 10 video coaching sessions and 3 bonus interviews all for only $395.
That’s about a tenth of what I normally charge for my time and you get access to all my best materials.
Because this is the first time I’ve ever put these teachings on video and I want to ensure a high quality experience for everyone who opts in, I’m forced to limit it to the first 400 people who sign up.
My No Risk, 100% Money Back Guarantee to You
I know $395 is a considerable amount of money for many of us, so here is my guarantee to you.
Pay nothing up front. Check out the first 4 weeks of the material for the first 30 days for free.
There are no shipping and handling costs.
If you don’t like it, contact us and you will not be charged a dime.
If you like it, you will be charged three monthly payments of $131.66 (for a total of $394.98).
My individual clients pay more for this for one hour of my time.
You will be able to download and save every video and audio interview to your computer so you can refer back to it again and again (because one of the best ways to train the emotional mind is repetition!).
Why is the price so low?
My purpose in life is to share this message with people throughout the world. This is my first attempt to share my message with a broader audience on the web. I’ve opened this up for a limited amount of time while testing the market.
And this is the first time I’ve put these teachings on video. So I’m testing the market to see what the response is. My testing period is your potential gain. I’m looking for 400 highly motivated people who can learn these tools, put them to use and get quick, powerful results.
Free Bonuses
There are three bonuses for you if you sign up now.
1. As an added bonus, when you order now, you’ll get an exclusive interview with Dr. Daniel Amen. Dr. Amen is a physician, child and adult psychiatrist, brain imaging specialist, bestselling author, Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association and the CEO and medical director of Amen Clinics, Inc. (ACI) in Newport Beach and Fairfield, California, Tacoma, Washington and Reston, Virginia. ACI is the world leader in applying brain imaging science to clinical practice. ACI has the world’s largest database of functional brain scans related to psychiatric medicine, now totaling more than 55,000 scans, and the clinics have seen patients from 75 countries.
2. You will also receive an exclusive audio interview with best-selling author, Dan Millman. Dan is a former world champion athlete, university coach, martial arts instructor, and college professor. After an intensive, twenty-year spiritual quest, Dan’s teaching found its form as the Peaceful Warrior’s Way, expressed fully in his books and lectures. His work continues to evolve over time, to meet the needs of a changing world. Dan’s thirteen books, including Way of the Peaceful Warrior, have inspired and informed millions of readers in 29 languages worldwide. The feature film, “Peaceful Warrior,” starring Nick Nolte, was adapted from Dan’s first book, based upon incidents from his life. Much of Dan’s time is devoted to writing and speaking. His keynotes, seminars, and workshops span the generations to influence men and women from all walks of life, including leaders in the fields of health, psychology, education, business, politics, sports, entertainment, and the arts.
3. AND, you will get access to a one-of-a-kind audio conversation between myself, John Schinnerer, and Dr. Fred Luskin. Dr. Luskin serves as Director of the Stanford Forgiveness Projects that investigate the effectiveness of his forgiveness methods on a variety of populations. The forgiveness project has successfully explored forgiveness therapy with people who suffered from the violence in Northern Ireland, Sierra Leone as well as the attacks on the World Trade Center on 9/11.He wrote one of my favorite books, ‘Forgive for Good.‘ In addition his work has been successfully applied and researched in corporate, medical, legal and religious settings. He currently serves as a Senior Consultant in Health Promotion at Stanford University. He presents lectures, workshops, seminars and trainings on the importance, health benefits and training of forgiveness, stress management and emotional competence throughout the United States. Forgiveness has been shown to reduce anger, hurt, depression and stress and lead to greater feelings of optimism, hope, compassion and self confidence.
These three powerful interviews are available only if you order now.
Remember, I’m so convinced of the tremendous value of these teachings I’m offering a ridiculous guarantee …
4 weeks free trial
100% money back guarantee if you are not fully satisfied (for up to 12 months after date of purchase)
If you like the material, you are charged only three monthly payments of $131.66. That’s less than my hourly rate!
Time-limited
If you act now, you get your own copy of the three audio interviews with Dr. Daniel Amen, Dan Millman and Dr. Fred Luskin.
So click the button below right now to take the first tiny step towards a better life.
This offer is only available for the first 400 brave souls who are serious about finding their path to satisfaction and success.
Once that threshold of 400 is reached, this offer will be gone forever.
Remember, if you don’t take action now, you don’t get your valuable bonuses of interviews with three world-class experts.
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To life, love and laughter,
John
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